“is this where you thought you’d be in 10 years?”
10 + years ago, I was 20,000 miles away in a foreign country following the next big thing. The internet had just come into its prime, international experience was the thing to have, and I had a freshly minted university degree under my belt.
I was set. Or so I thought.
The thing is, it’s bloody apparent when I look back and see what I did. But hindsight is always 20/20.
Prep school, college, university, travel, business…I thought I was choosing it all. But turns out I wasn’t questioning it enough. This happens to us more often than we’d like to think. We pick from the options we’re given, surf the next trend, follow the popular paths and choose the one fits best.
And despite trying out different experiences, wearing different hats and reinventing ourselves…we all end up in that space where we wake up feeling somehow “unsettled.”
But we trek on. Because we’re not quitters. (And we’re also not aware of what we’re doing wrong). All in the hopes that we would somehow, someday, stumble across that “thing” that would make us feel like we’d finally found our GRIP, so we can quit feeling “lost”, and finally start being (a teeny tiny bit) braggy about it.
That. That’s what we all try to do.
I hate that feeling. And btw, What is Grip anyways?
Glad you asked.
GRIP is different things to different people:
It could be that deep seated feeling of knowing that you’re on a path that leads to more than just a superficial means to an end.
To others it’s the feeling of knowing that you made a decision that wasn’t based on what your friends/family/society expected, and that you also didn’t make it in defiance of them either.
And to others still, it means following an uncharted path that maybe isn’t fully “accepted” or “approved of” by others around you, but that makes you feel whole.
In short, GRIP is truly knowing yourself and what you need to heal in life to make it your version of awesome.
yeah I feel that. so who the Bleep are you?
This is me in 3 sentences: I read a lot. I’ve had more than my fair share of “learning experiences” (ie: I made lots of mistakes). And I don’t share cookies. (Seriously. Don’t even bother asking.)
Hi. I’m Raisa Zaheeruddin. (That’s Za-He-RUDE-in. ‘Xcept I’m not rude. I’m sweary. That’s totally different. That’s also my face up there at the top of the screen. And, YES, those are cookies, NO they have nothing to do with psychology or neuroscience, and Don’t Worry, you’ll get over it. PS: can you put a PS in the middle of a letter? I don’t know. Let’s make it a thing. So PS: I’m truly honoured that you stopped by.)
Besides being sweary, I…
- …devour content on personal development. To date, I’ve read 2639 books, research articles, and case studies on psychology, neuroscience, biology, and habits. And when you combine them all together (in a way that only a gigantic nerd like me enjoys doing), you realize that they all hold different pieces of the puzzle that ultimately helps us find our GRIP in life. And as if that wasn’t enough, I’ve also read 103 biographies of people who have mastered the bad*ssery of being awesome at life. (I’m “paraphrasing” there.)
- …spent 7 years as a HR manager and was a member of my professional order (which really isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be) until one day I realized I’d had enough, and I flew back home.
- …have a degree in Psychology…never actually worked in that field…but used it in every job I ever held.
- …helped run an Ad Agency for 7 years in the BRIC (interesting learning curve filled with bribes, mafia, and squatting toilets).
Yup. Separately they’re all random things I did to get by. But combined, they’re the cross section of skills that allows me to be good at what I do. How to uncover deep seated goals that heal, knowing what drives (and debilitates) people, and how to propel them realistically so they can reach their goals and be awesome at life.
Awesome pants. SO How can you help me?
I tell stories filled with swear words (just because I can). I ask a lot of questions (because not thinking for ourselves is how we all got into this mess in the first place). And I make you look outside the box (because the box is really old and needs to be replaced).
In the end, my work turns out to be a blend of relevant ideas, scientific research, and hard-earned wisdom that’s supposed to get you to reflect and reason against your better judgement so you can find what it is that you’ve been missing all along. So while I don’t have all the answers (because the more I learn, the more I realize how little I know), I’m happy to share what I’ve learned along the way as build my version of an awesome life and help others do the same.
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